Thursday, March 21, 2019

Spanglish Conjugations

Earlier this week, as we were waiting for some ice cream to thaw so we could serve it, Katy told me, "El helado esta muy freeze."  I explained to Katy that the proper word to describe the ice cream is frozen.  She thought for a  few seconds and responded, "Es que Español es muy difícil."  Poor girl.  She thought frozen was a Spanish word.  We then discussed the proper sentence in both English and Spanish.  A couple days later, Katy said, "esta muy freeze," to describe a popsicle.  Apparently, we eat a lot of frozen novelties, and Katy needs a little more help with the correct use of frozen/congelado.

Later during the week, Katy was standing next to one of her baby sisters, who was sitting in the infant swing.  Katy pushed the swing seat and then told me, "La empushe."  I looked at her quizzically and asked her if she meant, "La empuje."  She grinned and explained that Grandma Lulu uses empushe.  I doubt Grandma Lulu uses the  clearly Spanglish "empushar," but I am impressed with Katy's ability to correctly conjugate a fake verb in the preterite tense.  At least her Spanglish wasn't a total loss this time.



Friday, March 1, 2019

Important Firsts

Baby books document all kinds of firsts in a baby's life; first smile, first tooth, first food, first steps.  Lifeasasias documents other important firsts, like baby's first trip to Target.  Cameron and Catarina, on March 1, 2019, you took your first trip to Target.  If you are anything like your mom and her family, this will be the first of many, many trips to this shopping mecca. 

Mom with her twins, Katy with her twins, and Grandma Dorothy bringing up the rear.

Wednesday, February 27, 2019

Welcoming the Twins to the World

A big thank you to Norma Hess Photography for beautiful photos from the twins' birth and their first hours in this world.

Going to the OR to deliver. 

Catarina's first seconds in this world. 

Meeting Catarina. 

Chris gushing over Cameron.  You can see the vacuum mark on her head.  Poor baby. 

Chris celebrating.  He was so excited to have two girls. 

Catarina in her warmer; nurses working to make Cameron respond in the background.

Cameron finally responding while Catarina rests in the background.

Cameron.

Cameron holding Papi's fingers minutes after her birth. 

Photos from two days after the twins were born.  Mom and Catarina. 

Catarina (right) was quite a bit bigger than Cameron (left). 

Cameron on left, Catarina on right. 

Papi and Catarina. 

A little door decor.  Grateful to have carried the twins to such a healthy size.

Tiny kisses for a tiny hand.

Cameron cozy with mom.

Catarina.

A baby for each of us. 

Cameron was so tiny and skinny. 

Cameron was also more alert from the beginning. 

Somehow all of this baby was inside me just two days earlier. 

A chest full of baby. 

Alert little Cameron.





Her dress says "Super Awesome Sister"

Our first family picture as a family of five. 

Tuesday, February 26, 2019

Valentine's Day 2019

Despite having newborn twins, we somehow managed to makeValentine's day a special day for Katy.  She needed it, too.  She was so excited to go to her Valentine's party at her ballet class wearing her Valentine's socks, decorate heart-shaped cookies, and make a little Valentine's party for Chris at the dining room table.  She even wore her princess dress all day to celebrate. 

Ready for the ballet party. 
Her Valentine notes from Mom and Dad.

Decorating heart-shaped cookies. 

Big Sister Blues and Privileges

Katy has been such a loving, helpful, and enthusiastic big sister.  I really am proud of how well she has handled the changes in her life over the last four weeks.






My aunt Denise visited last week to help with the twins while Chris was out of town for work.  On Wednesday evening, Denise took Katy to her Adventurer's class in McAllen.  Katy fell asleep on the drive home.  A nap so close to bedtime is never a good thing and usually makes for an extra cranky Katy come bedtime.

Despite the nap, the bedtime routine went well and Katy was in bed soon after arriving home.  Half an hour later, however, she was standing in the kitchen telling me she could not sleep because she napped in the car.  I knew she was tired, so I told her to go back to bed several times.  Katy eventually asked me to lay down with her but I was busy feeding one of the babies.  After several minutes of discussion about going to bed, I told Katy that part of being a big sister is sharing me with the babies sometimes.   All of the sudden, Katy began sobbing.  I wrapped my free arm around her and asked why she was crying.  She responded, "because of the babies." And then she added, "I don't want to be a big sister."

My aunt, who had finished feeding the other baby by this time, offered to finish with the baby I had.  As I walked Katy to bed and laid down next to her, I could see that she was trying not to cry anymore.  I explained to Katy that it's okay to cry when we are sad about things changing.  This, of course, made Katy cry even more.


A couple days later when Denise left, Katy went with her.  The plan was to spend a night with cousins Elayna and Kaylie and a night with cousins Evie and Elijah before returning home when my parents came to visit.  Katy was so incredibly excited about the trip and the prospect of playing with so many cousins.  She had more fun packing a suitcase, filling a bag with activities for the car ride, and preparing snacks.  When it came time to leave, I talked at length with Katy about her trip: where she would sleep, who she would visit, and how she would return home.  I also explained that going on a trip to visit cousins without mom and dad is something special that big sisters can do but that the babies cannot do.



It was a big week for Katy.  She has her first episode of the big sister blues.  She also went on her first trip without mom and dad (and she loved it, even if she did cry when she came home).

So Small and So Soft

The twins have very soft hair on their tiny little heads.  I'm sure Katy had similarly soft hair when she was a newborn, but I don't remember this little detail.  I want to remember it this time, however.  I want to remember how much I like to run my hands across their soft little heads as they doze in my arms.  Soft, newborn hair is one of my favorite things right now. 



Wednesday, February 13, 2019

Four-Years-Old and Shopping

Tonight Katy and I went to Target.  We've done this countless times before but this time was extra special because for the first time, Katy had her own money to spend.  She dressed herself in all blue - blue Mary Jane shoes, blue capri leggings, a blue floral shirt, and a blue peacoat.  She proudly carried her money (and nothing else) in a small woven purse embellished with little embroidered flowers.  She talked non-stop about what she would buy as we drove to the store.

When we arrived at Target, Katy first offered to buy popcorn and a drink for us to share.  Touched as I was, I insisted that I buy the snacks.  Fresh popcorn and a bright-blue Icee in hand, we headed for the toys.  We looked at so many toys.  Katy picked several items to put in the basket as possible choices for her money - two different doll sets, a Polly Pocket set, a fairy house, a Cutie Car carrier, a basket for her bike, and a Peppa Pig play set, to name a few.  After we walked the isles, I unloaded all of her choices in a row on the floor and she choose which she wanted to buy.  It was a surprisingly easy decision for her as she quickly eliminated items almost as quickly as I pulled them from the basket.

Katy went to the store with two twenty-dollar bills and two five-dollar bills.  The Peppa Pig playset she choose cost almost $40, or both of her twenty-dollar bills.  When we arrived home, Chris asked Katy how much her toy cost.  She replied, "Two dollars."  To her, all the bills carried the same value.

Thursday, January 31, 2019

The Twins are Here!

At exactly 37 weeks, the twins entered the world big, strong, healthy, and all girl!  LifeasaSias, meet Catarina and Cameron!

Catarina

Cameron
The birth of the twins was the exact opposite of Katy's birth.  Cameron was breech and there were two babies, which introduced too many potential complications.  Accepting that this delivery would in no way resemble the experience I had with Katy took a couple of weeks to digest.  In the end, it was a trade-off.  I found a doctor willing and able to attempt flipping Cameron for a vaginal delivery and then deliver her breech if she would not flip.  Because of the nature of this delivery, however, the doctor wanted me to be induced and have an epidural in place, so as to give him more control over the delivery.  I accepted his terms.

We convinced the doctor to let the babies wait until 37 weeks, when they would be term for twins, which was Sunday, January 27.  I suspect the doctor went along with our request only because my cervix wasn't dilated to 3 centimeters until appointment late in the afternoon on Friday, January 25.  We left the doctor's office around 6 that Friday, stopped at HEB (Chris pushing me around in a wheelchair cart), and then drove home.  During all of this, the impending birth consumed my thoughts.  It didn't seem real that the babies would arrive in less than 48 hours.  I was excited and anxious and nervous and overwhelmed.  Things were suddenly moving incredibly fast.

We spent Saturday at home, our last day as a family of three.  We didn't go to church.  I slept as much as my mind would allow.  Chris and Katy built Falling Water with legos.  I started a sewing project to distract myself from watching the clock.   My parents arrived around 6 p.m. to stay with Katy.  Shortly thereafter, Chris and I loaded the bags in the car and headed out for a pre-induction party with some friends.  At the time it suddenly seemed frivolous and imprudent to be going to dinner and a movie right before reporting to the hospital to deliver the twins.  In hindsight, it was a welcome distraction from sitting around and waiting.




The movie ended at midnight and there was definitely an excited energy among us as we left the theater with our friends.  We anxiously stood around and chatted for a few minutes.  Finally, we gathered in a circle in the parking lot for one final prayer, and then Chris and I were off.

The doctor asked us to report to the hospital at little after midnight on Sunday morning.   Due to the time required to check-in, change, and monitor the babies for a bit, the induction didn't start until almost 2 a.m.  From the start, I was connected to three monitors and two IVs.  It made moving difficult and resting uncomfortable.

For the first four hours, my cervix moved from 3 to 4 centimeters and the contractions were not terribly painful.  I even dozed off a bit at times. At 6 a.m., however, the nurse increased the Pitocin considerably.  Shortly thereafter, my water broke and the contractions became very painful, much more painful than any contractions I experienced during Katy's delivery.  The nurse checked and I had moved to 6-7 centimeters in a matter of an hour.

The next hour or so was a blur of activity.  The doctor arrived as the anesthetist was preparing to insert the epidural.  Staying still during this time was incredibly difficult because the contractions were only a couple minutes apart.  As soon as the epidural was in place, the doctor checked my cervix and reported that I was at 9 centimeters.  Chris was given a sterile suit, and I was prepped for the operating room.

The operating room was big and bright, filled with so many people and machines.  I couldn't feel my lower half, and could barely feel the pressure of each contraction.  It seemed that within minutes of arriving, I was at 10 centimeters and was pushing.  After a few contractions, Catarina Luz entered the world, weighing in at 6 pounds and 15 ounces.  I couldn't believe she was almost seven pounds!

After Catarina was out, the doctor confirmed that Cameron was still breech and began his attempts to flip her around.  He broke Cameron's water and manipulated her externally and internally.  Within a few minutes, she was vertex and it was time to push again.

Cameron came out almost as quickly as Catarina, however, her heart rate dropped quickly in the process.  The doctor used a vacuum to expedite her delivery, and within a few seconds it became obvious that she was unresponsive.  Her little body was limp and white, and the baby nurses quickly whisked her away.

And this is when things started to get a little hairy.  Poor little Cameron wasn't responding, and I began hemorrhaging.  At the time I didn't realize how much I was bleeding, but I did note a marked change in the energy in the room.  Suddenly the nurses and the anesthetist were moving very quickly, and the doctor was giving lots of orders for different items from the hemorrhage cart.  I could hear one nurse counting, I heard the doctor order someone to bring units of blood, and my arms were poked with more IVs and injections.

Several times I asked what was going on, which prompted the anesthetist to very kindly and confidently tried to calm me and reassure me that everything was fine.  At one point, the doctor responded to my questions by explaining that if he could not stop the bleeding, he may have to do an emergency hysterectomy.  I couldn't see everything that was going on, but Chris later told me there was blood everywhere. 

At some point I started to feel very cold, shaky, and nauseous.  The anesthetist responded to each of my complaints with another injection, then a plastic blanket full of warm air, and eventually a towel to clean the vomit from my face.

Eventually, I heard the doctor state that the bleeding was slowing down.  After another half hour or so, the nurses moved me from the operating room.  I was already receiving a blood transfusion, there were IV lines attached to both arms, and I had two large lines coming out of my nether regions.  More immediate to me, however, was that my entire body was shaking so hard that my muscles ached.  I kept opening my mouth wide to try and stop my teeth from rattling against each other, but it didn't help.   I was so miserable that the anesthetist took pity on me and finally gave me some kind of sedative.

In all, I lost 3 liters of blood and received a transfusion of two units of blood and two units of platelets.  I spent the next 24 hours unable to leave the bed, with a nurse stationed in my room, unable to eat or drink much of anything in case I started bleeding again and needed an emergency surgery.  I was too weak to hold my babies until almost 12 hours after they were born, and even then I couldn't hold them very long.  There were so many people drawing blood, changing IV fluids, and checking the lines going into me that it was difficult to get comfortable.

Thankfully, Cameron responded within a few minutes of her birth, and both babies were healthy enough to avoid a NICU stay and to go home with us at two days old.  I was still quite weak, short of breath, and tired as a result of anemia when we left the hospital.  I was very happy, however, to have two healthy baby girls. 






Sunday, January 20, 2019

Estoy Feliz

Last week, Katy became upset and ashamed while I talked to her about something she should not have done.  She knew she was in trouble and kept her sad face downcast as I talked to her.  During the middle of our conversation, she meekly asked if she could watch a video.  I told Katy that she could not watch a video and explained that we do not watch videos just because we are feeling sad.  She looked up at me with a quivering lower lip, sad little eyes, and a tight-lipped, half frown.  Trying desperately to hold back sobs, she responded in a shaky voice, "Estoy feliz." And then she started sobbing.  Nice try, Katy, but still no videos.